Bow on your head
Sometimes you just have one of those days; you want a bow on your head. No biggie, and you can go to work with it too (so we feel). Especially if you tame that lovely bow a little bit by combining it with a tough looking or casual outfit. Leather pants, basic T or tank top and no pink lips but just a little Vaseline and you can pull a Mini Mouse do just fine.
It looks a little complicated but the bow really is quite easy.
1.       Make a high ponytail, but don’t pull your hair all the way through the elastic but leave it half through so that you get a bun with a bit of hair sticking out of it from about 5 inches long. Sounds weird, no worries à see photo 1.
2.       Take that bit of hair and fold it over the middle of your bun. This way you divide your bun into the two loops of the bow.
 
3.       Stick that bit of hair onto your head with some bobby pins.
 

4.       Done! Does your bow get droopy? Support it with little hair pins that you can hide in your hair (like we did with the mowhawk). Spray some hairspray over the bow and you could even rock and roll with it (promise, we’ve tried).

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Bow on your head

Sometimes you just have one of those days; you want a bow on your head. No biggie, and you can go to work with it too (so we feel). Especially if you tame that lovely bow a little bit by combining it with a tough looking or casual outfit. Leather pants, basic T or tank top and no pink lips but just a little Vaseline and you can pull a Mini Mouse do just fine.

It looks a little complicated but the bow really is quite easy.

1.       Make a high ponytail, but don’t pull your hair all the way through the elastic but leave it half through so that you get a bun with a bit of hair sticking out of it from about 5 inches long. Sounds weird, no worries à see photo 1.

2.       Take that bit of hair and fold it over the middle of your bun. This way you divide your bun into the two loops of the bow.

 

3.       Stick that bit of hair onto your head with some bobby pins.

 

4.       Done! Does your bow get droopy? Support it with little hair pins that you can hide in your hair (like we did with the mowhawk). Spray some hairspray over the bow and you could even rock and roll with it (promise, we’ve tried).

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Yoga Monday: The too good to be true breathing diet
It doesn’t make you sweat, it doesn’t make your toes cramp up, you don’t really have to tighten any muscles AND it makes you calm. We kid you not: with simple breathing exercises you can lose pounds (see that plural ‘s’, SEE that plural ‘s’!)
So there I am, breathing myself about 4 pounds lighter. That sounds about as credible as that is really was the tooth fairy that was crazy enough to exchange my little teeth for candy when I was little. But apparently it truly is so. No, not in one session and it probably won’t make you a skinny bag of bones either. But for those who have patience and repeat this exercise regularly, losing weight is a fair possibility.
This has a number of explanations. Firstly, your lungs fill up fully by breathing in fresh oxygen. That oxygen is then transported to all the cells in your body which helps to burn fat cells (score!). Secondly the oxygen level in your blood rises which helps you to keep the carbon dioxide in your body longer; this gives you more energy to workout.  Thirdly you release hormones that stimulate your metabolism when you breathe deeply. And last but not least there are certain yoga breathing exercises that ‘massage’ you abdomens and thereby help you to lose fat on your stomach area. 
So there are several of these lovely exercises – and every now and then they will appear in our Yoga Monday posts – but for now we’ll start with one. Sit down on the floor and cross your legs in such a way that your knees come to lie right on top of each other, pointing forward (see photo). Sit up straight, breath in and lengthen your spine. Once you’ve found a comfortable straight posture, hold hands behind your back. Your upper body will automatically turn towards the arm that goes over your head a little. By looking at that same direction you boost that movement so that your whole body twists a bit. Now slowly and deeply breathe in and out about 5 times (from the belly) and then switch sides.
Breathing tip: try to breathe out two times as slowly as you breathe in and count your breaths to keep them as regularly as possible. Breathe in for 4 seconds and out for 8 for example. 
PS Yay, you can even do these breathing exercises at the office! Take a small break and sit up as straight as you can, at the edge of your seat with your feet flat on the floor and your hands on your knees or your desk. Breathe in and out deeply and regularly for about 2 minutes. Because your brain suddenly gets an oxygen-shot this way, you’ll also become more alert and you’ll be able to concentrate better again. 

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Yoga Monday: The too good to be true breathing diet

It doesn’t make you sweat, it doesn’t make your toes cramp up, you don’t really have to tighten any muscles AND it makes you calm. We kid you not: with simple breathing exercises you can lose pounds (see that plural ‘s’, SEE that plural ‘s’!)

So there I am, breathing myself about 4 pounds lighter. That sounds about as credible as that is really was the tooth fairy that was crazy enough to exchange my little teeth for candy when I was little. But apparently it truly is so. No, not in one session and it probably won’t make you a skinny bag of bones either. But for those who have patience and repeat this exercise regularly, losing weight is a fair possibility.

This has a number of explanations. Firstly, your lungs fill up fully by breathing in fresh oxygen. That oxygen is then transported to all the cells in your body which helps to burn fat cells (score!). Secondly the oxygen level in your blood rises which helps you to keep the carbon dioxide in your body longer; this gives you more energy to workout.  Thirdly you release hormones that stimulate your metabolism when you breathe deeply. And last but not least there are certain yoga breathing exercises that ‘massage’ you abdomens and thereby help you to lose fat on your stomach area.

So there are several of these lovely exercises – and every now and then they will appear in our Yoga Monday posts – but for now we’ll start with one. Sit down on the floor and cross your legs in such a way that your knees come to lie right on top of each other, pointing forward (see photo). Sit up straight, breath in and lengthen your spine. Once you’ve found a comfortable straight posture, hold hands behind your back. Your upper body will automatically turn towards the arm that goes over your head a little. By looking at that same direction you boost that movement so that your whole body twists a bit. Now slowly and deeply breathe in and out about 5 times (from the belly) and then switch sides.

Breathing tip: try to breathe out two times as slowly as you breathe in and count your breaths to keep them as regularly as possible. Breathe in for 4 seconds and out for 8 for example.

PS Yay, you can even do these breathing exercises at the office! Take a small break and sit up as straight as you can, at the edge of your seat with your feet flat on the floor and your hands on your knees or your desk. Breathe in and out deeply and regularly for about 2 minutes. Because your brain suddenly gets an oxygen-shot this way, you’ll also become more alert and you’ll be able to concentrate better again.

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Luxuria: lust & lechery
 “I have a desire for every inch of you. The smell of your breath, on my needing lips, the taste of you under the covers, and your voice, rummaging through every vein in my body.”
And to give the lust some balance: 
When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together, that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is; love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night, imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No…don’t blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love, which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away.
-Captain Corellis mandolin-
 
 

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Luxuria: lust & lechery

 “I have a desire for every inch of you. The smell of your breath, on my needing lips, the taste of you under the covers, and your voice, rummaging through every vein in my body.”

And to give the lust some balance:

When you fall in love,
it is a temporary madness.
It erupts like an earthquake and then it subsides.
And when it subsides,
you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together,
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is;
love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day.
It is not lying awake at night,
imagining that he is kissing every part of your body.
No…don’t blush.
I am telling you some truths.
For that is just being in love, which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
Love itself is what is left over,
when being in love has burned away.

-Captain Corellis mandolin-

 

 

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Gula: gluttony
“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.”  - George Bernard Shaw -
“Everything in this room is edible. Even I’m edible. But, that would be called cannibalism. It is looked down upon in most societies.”  - Tim Burton in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory -
“Am I tough? Am I strong? Am I hard-core? Absolutely.Did I whimper with pathetic delight when I sank my teeth into my hot fried-chicken sandwich? You betcha.”  - James Patterson -
Well, what else we can say about food besides that WE LOVE IT! In all shapes, forms and sizes, from all kitchens, from culinary masterpieces and oysters to French fries with tons of mayo and simple shepherds pie and from expensive wines to good ol’ beer. We love to eat a lot, we love junk food, we love to eat healthy, we love to eat in the morning and we love to eat at night. Food is always good. And so is dessert.
But in moderation, that’s for sure. Who bench eats to eat away pain or stress is still doing fine, as long as it only happens once a year or so; not when it has become a daily reality. Becoming really fat and thereby increasing your chances on heart disease, it simply being too sinful.
Anyways, we’re not gonna preach on what one should and shouldn’t eat, what will make you fat and what wont; we’re all women so we suppose we’re all experts on the matter already.
What we would like to say is: enjoy every bite, eat healthy and sometimes not healthy and above all keep your balance.
 

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Gula: gluttony

“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.” 
- George Bernard Shaw -


“Everything in this room is edible. Even I’m edible. But, that would be called cannibalism. It is looked down upon in most societies.” 
- Tim Burton in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory -


“Am I tough? Am I strong? Am I hard-core? Absolutely.
Did I whimper with pathetic delight when I sank my teeth into my hot fried-chicken sandwich?
You betcha.” 
- James Patterson -


Well, what else we can say about food besides that WE LOVE IT! In all shapes, forms and sizes, from all kitchens, from culinary masterpieces and oysters to French fries with tons of mayo and simple shepherds pie and from expensive wines to good ol’ beer. We love to eat a lot, we love junk food, we love to eat healthy, we love to eat in the morning and we love to eat at night. Food is always good. And so is dessert.

But in moderation, that’s for sure. Who bench eats to eat away pain or stress is still doing fine, as long as it only happens once a year or so; not when it has become a daily reality. Becoming really fat and thereby increasing your chances on heart disease, it simply being too sinful.

Anyways, we’re not gonna preach on what one should and shouldn’t eat, what will make you fat and what wont; we’re all women so we suppose we’re all experts on the matter already.

What we would like to say is: enjoy every bite, eat healthy and sometimes not healthy and above all keep your balance.

 

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                                                    Ira: Wrath
´´An eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind.´´ - Mahatma Gandhi -
‘’Hating someone is like taking poison every day, hoping the other person dies.’’ - Nelson Mandela -
“Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however,  is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” - Criss Jami -
Wrath & vengeance is the most complicated sin of them all. The difference between revenge, retaliation and justice is often hard to define. When does something justify a horrible deed and when does justification itself become a sin? 
‘Hate’ is another of those fuzzy words; such an intangible emotion. Does hate mean you’re really very angry? Is hate the kind of anger that leads to vengeance? We honestly don’t know and have determined that we, ourselves, have never actually hated anyone (or well…maybe Hitler and Al Bashir and other genocide committing dictators. Oh and rapists or course. Anyways, that seems to be a different, more distant kind of hate, as in ‘we don’t feel the need to kick Hitler in the balls every day, but we would very happily do it in an instant he was ever actually ever in front of us). We would however love to get justice when it comes down to the kids that bullied us so badly in primary school; but them, we don’t hate. They were kids.
So in short: we also don’t quite know what one should do with feelings of hate and vengeance. What we do know is that – when you really don’t have the answer yourself – it is always advisable to listen to those who have often proven to know a lot. Like Gandhi, Mandela, Eckhart Tolle and Paulo Coelho. And what we also know for sure, purely based on a good brain and some healthy thinking, is that it is always better to let go then to avenge. All mums were probably right when they said ‘’vengeance is lowering yourself to ‘their’ level. Being happy and successful, that is useful revenge.’’

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                                                    Ira: Wrath

´´An eye for an eye makes the whole world go blind.´´
- Mahatma Gandhi -

‘’Hating someone is like taking poison every day, hoping the other person dies.’’
- Nelson Mandela -

Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however,
is for those who are substantial enough to move on.” 
- Criss Jami -

Wrath & vengeance is the most complicated sin of them all. The difference between revenge, retaliation and justice is often hard to define. When does something justify a horrible deed and when does justification itself become a sin?

‘Hate’ is another of those fuzzy words; such an intangible emotion. Does hate mean you’re really very angry? Is hate the kind of anger that leads to vengeance? We honestly don’t know and have determined that we, ourselves, have never actually hated anyone (or well…maybe Hitler and Al Bashir and other genocide committing dictators. Oh and rapists or course. Anyways, that seems to be a different, more distant kind of hate, as in ‘we don’t feel the need to kick Hitler in the balls every day, but we would very happily do it in an instant he was ever actually ever in front of us). We would however love to get justice when it comes down to the kids that bullied us so badly in primary school; but them, we don’t hate. They were kids.

So in short: we also don’t quite know what one should do with feelings of hate and vengeance. What we do know is that – when you really don’t have the answer yourself – it is always advisable to listen to those who have often proven to know a lot. Like Gandhi, Mandela, Eckhart Tolle and Paulo Coelho. And what we also know for sure, purely based on a good brain and some healthy thinking, is that it is always better to let go then to avenge. All mums were probably right when they said ‘’vengeance is lowering yourself to ‘their’ level. Being happy and successful, that is useful revenge.’’

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Superbia: vanity and pride
 
‘’A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.’’ – Coco Chanel –
‘’Poor yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together.’’  – Elizabeth Taylor –
To give vanity and pride some balance
‘’The truest characters of ignorance are vanity and pride and arrogance.’’ - Samuel Butler-
“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”
-Jane Austen -
“There comes a time when you look into the mirror and you realize that what you see is all that you will ever be. And then you accept it. Or you kill yourself. Or you stop looking in mirrors.”
-Tennessee Williams
Vanity and pride are two different things but often inextricably connected. It’s our pride that wishes to wear a mask, our fear that is afraid to be vulnerable. And so we hide our puffy eyes, our flaws, our red spots and our scars. 
And sometimes vanity is simply something to make you feel more secure, it can be a hobby or even a passion.
If you realize that you should be just as happy – or even happier- with your reflection if the mirror would show you your soul instead of your face, then by all means dress up and put on make-up. But when make-up, clothes, vanity & pride become a mask to hide a face that you don’t want the world to see – and that you don’t want to see yourself -, you know you’re in trouble.
-Taj -

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Superbia: vanity and pride

 

‘’A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous.’’
– Coco Chanel –

‘’Poor yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together.’’
– Elizabeth Taylor –

To give vanity and pride some balance

‘’The truest characters of ignorance are vanity and pride and arrogance.’’
- Samuel Butler-

“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”

-Jane Austen -

“There comes a time when you look into the mirror and you realize that what you see is all that you will ever be. And then you accept it. Or you kill yourself. Or you stop looking in mirrors.”

-Tennessee Williams

Vanity and pride are two different things but often inextricably connected. It’s our pride that wishes to wear a mask, our fear that is afraid to be vulnerable. And so we hide our puffy eyes, our flaws, our red spots and our scars.

And sometimes vanity is simply something to make you feel more secure, it can be a hobby or even a passion.

If you realize that you should be just as happy – or even happier- with your reflection if the mirror would show you your soul instead of your face, then by all means dress up and put on make-up. But when make-up, clothes, vanity & pride become a mask to hide a face that you don’t want the world to see – and that you don’t want to see yourself -, you know you’re in trouble.

-Taj -

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AVARITIA: GREED
‘’Let’s cover the world in glitters and pearls.’’
‘’I love pretty things, what else is there?’’
‘’Nothing better to heal a broken heart than a shopping spree.’’
To give Greed some balance
“He who is not contented with what he has,  would not be contented with what he would like to have.”  - Socrates -
“Successful and happy people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful and unhappy people are always asking: ‘what’s in it for me?’” - Brian Tracy -
“Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires.”- Lao Tzu -
What is greed? When does loving pretty things and wanting to have them become ‘greed’? And is it really that bad, that evil? Someone asked us once: ‘if you’d lose all your things, had no more lipstick, no more beautiful car and no more house with a luxurious kitchen en gorgeous furniture, would you still be you? Would you still be happy?’’.
All those things are a form of security, absolutely, but they’re not the roots of real, deep security. ‘False securities’ you could even call all those things. Real security and real riches is if you’d be just as happy if the entire world, with all your pearls and gems in it, would perish. From your house, your shoes, your laptop, you’re diploma’s, your art and clothing to your rare Faberge egg you once bought in Russia. You’d be okay cause you’d have love; for yourself and others. Because you’d be healthy, you’d have your knowledge, your sense of humor, your talents, your strength and your courage. If these are the things you derive your identity and security from (and then still buy that designer purse, in 4 colors), you’re alright.
Would you be a lost little puppy without all those things, then this could very well be your sin that may no longer be called a guilty pleasure, but a real problem. We all shop to drown our sorrow; a descent petty party simply costs some tears, chocolate and pretty things, and also shopping just for fun is okay. As soon as we NEED it however – start spending money we don’t have, not being able to be happy without that one jacket/purse/chair cause it seems essential to make us who we are – we’re in trouble. Then it’s time to pick to flower that hides the festering wound underneath it and to start dealing with our real and much bigger problems.
-Taj-


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AVARITIA: GREED

‘’Let’s cover the world in glitters and pearls.’’

‘’I love pretty things, what else is there?’’

‘’Nothing better to heal a broken heart than a shopping spree.’’

To give Greed some balance

“He who is not contented with what he has,
would not be contented with what he would like to have.” 
- Socrates -

“Successful and happy people are always looking for opportunities to help others. 
Unsuccessful and unhappy people are always asking: ‘what’s in it for me?’”
- Brian Tracy -

“Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires.”
- Lao Tzu -

What is greed? When does loving pretty things and wanting to have them become ‘greed’? And is it really that bad, that evil? Someone asked us once: ‘if you’d lose all your things, had no more lipstick, no more beautiful car and no more house with a luxurious kitchen en gorgeous furniture, would you still be you? Would you still be happy?’’.

All those things are a form of security, absolutely, but they’re not the roots of real, deep security. ‘False securities’ you could even call all those things. Real security and real riches is if you’d be just as happy if the entire world, with all your pearls and gems in it, would perish. From your house, your shoes, your laptop, you’re diploma’s, your art and clothing to your rare Faberge egg you once bought in Russia. You’d be okay cause you’d have love; for yourself and others. Because you’d be healthy, you’d have your knowledge, your sense of humor, your talents, your strength and your courage. If these are the things you derive your identity and security from (and then still buy that designer purse, in 4 colors), you’re alright.

Would you be a lost little puppy without all those things, then this could very well be your sin that may no longer be called a guilty pleasure, but a real problem. We all shop to drown our sorrow; a descent petty party simply costs some tears, chocolate and pretty things, and also shopping just for fun is okay. As soon as we NEED it however – start spending money we don’t have, not being able to be happy without that one jacket/purse/chair cause it seems essential to make us who we are – we’re in trouble. Then it’s time to pick to flower that hides the festering wound underneath it and to start dealing with our real and much bigger problems.

-Taj-

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Invidia: jealousy and evy
‘’The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is an emotion related to wanting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.’’Some different views on the matter:
“They’ll either want to kill you, kiss you, or be you.”  -Suzanna Collins-
 “Anger, resentment and jealousy don’t change the heart of others - it only changes yours.”  -Shannon L.Alder-“If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you can bet the water bill is higher.”  - Debbie Macomber-
“To find out a girl’s faults, praise her to her girlfriends.” - Benjamin Franklin-
“The motive behind criticism often determines its validity. Those who care criticize where necessary. Those who envy criticize the moment they think that they have found a weak spot.” - Criss Jami-
Jealousy is probably the ugliest duckling in the bunch of sins. The other 6 all have something (no matter how farfetched) endearing or cute. Even ‘wrath’, when in the name of justice. But jealousy and envy seem to be the only sins of which we just can’t say anything good. And that makes sense. It never comes from love, even if it’s often been said that it does; it comes from ego, pride or less mean – but nonetheless annoying – characteristics like insecurity or frustration.
Envy is the mildest of the two; it won’t make you hurt someone, can even motivate and it can be a great mirror. If you handle it well that is. Jealousy on the other hand, is dark. People speak of ‘healthy jealousy’ in some cases, but does that really exist? The most common context for this particular sort of jealousy is when you’re jealous of another woman in YOUR lovers’ life: ‘it means you’re really crazy about him’, is then often said.
We however feel that 1) it means you intuitively feel that something’s going on 2) you’re insecure and afraid of losing your lover (but this shouldn’t be the case if there is true trust in your relationship) or 3) you envy the other woman because she’s prettier/slimmer/smarter and you just can’t control your own mean-streak. In any case: this sort of jealousy is usually pretty destructive AND addictive. Once you’re jealous, it doesn’t easily go away anymore. Time to do some self-coaching; this sort of jealousy is extremely tiring and you’re simply too good for it.

Jealousy amongst women is a whole different kind of jealousy. This sort of jealousy never has to do anything with anybody else, but 100% with you. As long as you realize this and you can laugh at yourself a little, you’re okay (then you get something like: “Years from now, when I’m successful and happy…and she’s in prison… I hope I’m not too mature to gloat.” -Bill Waterson-)
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Invidia: jealousy and evy

‘’The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is an emotion related to wanting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.’’

Some different views on the matter:

“They’ll either want to kill you, kiss you, or be you.” 
-Suzanna Collins-

 “Anger, resentment and jealousy don’t change the heart of others - it only changes yours.” 
-Shannon L.Alder-

“If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you can bet the water bill is higher.” 
- Debbie Macomber-

“To find out a girl’s faults, praise her to her girlfriends.” 
- Benjamin Franklin-

“The motive behind criticism often determines its validity. Those who care criticize where necessary. Those who envy criticize the moment they think that they have found a weak spot.” 
- Criss Jami-

Jealousy is probably the ugliest duckling in the bunch of sins. The other 6 all have something (no matter how farfetched) endearing or cute. Even ‘wrath’, when in the name of justice. But jealousy and envy seem to be the only sins of which we just can’t say anything good. And that makes sense. It never comes from love, even if it’s often been said that it does; it comes from ego, pride or less mean – but nonetheless annoying – characteristics like insecurity or frustration.

Envy is the mildest of the two; it won’t make you hurt someone, can even motivate and it can be a great mirror. If you handle it well that is. Jealousy on the other hand, is dark. People speak of ‘healthy jealousy’ in some cases, but does that really exist? The most common context for this particular sort of jealousy is when you’re jealous of another woman in YOUR lovers’ life: ‘it means you’re really crazy about him’, is then often said.

We however feel that 1) it means you intuitively feel that something’s going on 2) you’re insecure and afraid of losing your lover (but this shouldn’t be the case if there is true trust in your relationship) or 3) you envy the other woman because she’s prettier/slimmer/smarter and you just can’t control your own mean-streak. In any case: this sort of jealousy is usually pretty destructive AND addictive. Once you’re jealous, it doesn’t easily go away anymore. Time to do some self-coaching; this sort of jealousy is extremely tiring and you’re simply too good for it.

Jealousy amongst women is a whole different kind of jealousy. This sort of jealousy never has to do anything with anybody else, but 100% with you. As long as you realize this and you can laugh at yourself a little, you’re okay (then you get something like: “Years from now, when I’m successful and happy…and she’s in prison… I hope I’m not too mature to gloat.” -Bill Waterson-)

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Acedia: Laziness
“Inspiration is a guest that does not willingly visit the lazy.” - Pyotr Ilych Tchaikovsky -  
“We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.”  - Thomas A. Edison -
To give sloth a little balance
‘’Doing less meaningful works is not laziness. Focus on being productive instead of busy.’’ - Timothy Ferris -
“Progress isn’t made by early risers. It’s made by lazy men trying to find easier ways to do something.” - Robert A. Heinlein -

Lazy isn’t just lazy; it comes in all shapes and forms. There is the ‘lazy laziness’ (sleeping in on Sundays), the ‘tired laziness (after a busy day or a long night when you can’t even make yourself get your favorite coffee at the corner of the street) and the ‘heated laziness’ (the just doing nothing al day cause it is just too hot outside. No biggie; these forms of laziness are pretty harmless (and often wonderful guilty pleasures, if well dosed)
But then there are the kinds of laziness that point out a nasty cause like depression, loneliness, sickness or a rut you can’t seem to get out of; the kinds of laziness that make going to the supermarket feel like an efficient use of your time (it would even make you feel like you’ve been productive if it were the only thing you did that day). In this case, it’s not a sin but a problem. And not one you’re to blame for, but one of which it is up to you to recognize it and to handle it.
Let’s finish with idleness, the ‘mild sloth’. The situation: you’re just being a little lazy or you suffer from the ‘princess syndrome’ and are too spoiled and idle to even point a finger. The more severe variation of this is egocentrism; you simply don’t find it worthwhile to help someone else. You rather stay put in your lazy chair EVERY day instead of helping with the dishes, rather look away instead of helping that old lady with her groceries and you complain if someone asks you to do something, anything. Hate to break it to you, but this is a sin with a capital ‘S’. Does this sound like you? Then it’s time for some serious self-coaching and a kick in your royal butt. 
-Taj-

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Acedia: Laziness

“Inspiration is a guest that does not willingly visit the lazy.”
- Pyotr Ilych Tchaikovsky - 

“We often miss opportunity because it’s dressed in overalls and looks like work.” 
- Thomas A. Edison -

To give sloth a little balance

‘’Doing less meaningful works is not laziness. Focus on being productive instead of busy.’’
- Timothy Ferris -

“Progress isn’t made by early risers.
It’s made by lazy men trying to find easier ways to do something.” 
- Robert A. Heinlein -

Lazy isn’t just lazy; it comes in all shapes and forms. There is the ‘lazy laziness’ (sleeping in on Sundays), the ‘tired laziness (after a busy day or a long night when you can’t even make yourself get your favorite coffee at the corner of the street) and the ‘heated laziness’ (the just doing nothing al day cause it is just too hot outside. No biggie; these forms of laziness are pretty harmless (and often wonderful guilty pleasures, if well dosed)

But then there are the kinds of laziness that point out a nasty cause like depression, loneliness, sickness or a rut you can’t seem to get out of; the kinds of laziness that make going to the supermarket feel like an efficient use of your time (it would even make you feel like you’ve been productive if it were the only thing you did that day). In this case, it’s not a sin but a problem. And not one you’re to blame for, but one of which it is up to you to recognize it and to handle it.

Let’s finish with idleness, the ‘mild sloth’. The situation: you’re just being a little lazy or you suffer from the ‘princess syndrome’ and are too spoiled and idle to even point a finger. The more severe variation of this is egocentrism; you simply don’t find it worthwhile to help someone else. You rather stay put in your lazy chair EVERY day instead of helping with the dishes, rather look away instead of helping that old lady with her groceries and you complain if someone asks you to do something, anything. Hate to break it to you, but this is a sin with a capital ‘S’. Does this sound like you? Then it’s time for some serious self-coaching and a kick in your royal butt.

-Taj-

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